Off My Chest

Many of us stumble through this life without a purpose, or so it seems. We are just drifters of reality, taking on whatever comes our way. Waiting for that moment that will throw us into our fate and put us on the road to our destiny.
It’s impossible to predict how anything will end, if it ends. That can be life, love, career… anything. The only way we can reach the end of anything is to take the journey. Ignorance is the key to longevity with anything, as the more we learn about something, the more inclined we are to end it because we see its tainted imperfections. It is not a matter of anything being perfect; it’s a matter of the positives outweighing the negatives. In this world, we focus on the negatives far to often. “Why did it fail?” instead of “What was good about it?” This is why we never learn; this is why 50% of marriages end in divorce, this is why the world is at war.

I often hear people say, “Well that was a waste of “X” years” or “There’s a chunk of my life I won’t get back” at the end of a relationship. This is taking the negative out of a situation that can be seen as a positive given the right mindset. I know this is very hypocritical coming from me, but I’m the first to admit that I never take my own advice. Why not focus on the positive things, like what you learned. What you can and can’t handle within a relationship, or what simple little things annoy you. People ask, “How come things are different to how they were when we first dating? Why did they change?” Truth is they probably didn’t change, you just learnt more about the other person with time. I’m willing to bet that if you were to learn nothing more about the person you were dating after 3 months, there would be no problem. Ignorance is bliss ladies and gentlemen.

I am a pessimist, which has moments of optimism. That’s just the way I am. I believe its better to assume the worst because anything better is seen as a bonus. People don’t like it, but that’s me, that’s how I deal with the world. I’d rather be relieved if news isn’t as bad than was first expected, than be disappointed when its when I assumed it would be fine. I’ll tell you that it’s not an easy way to live, but for me there is no turning back. I’ve been let down far to often to even begin to hint towards a positive outcome from any situation, again that is hypocritical considering what I’ve written above.

Hopefully, I can help prevent others ending up like me. Enough people come to me for advice that if I was a counsellor I’d never have to work another day in my life. That’s fine with me, though young; I have a lot of advice to give. Be it through experience or just watching the world, I have answers to questions I wish I didn’t have. However, if I use them to help then I guess it’s not so bad. I have an opinion on almost everything, which comes in handy considering I’m pretending to be a writer.

I’ll leave you with this thought. Many people, like myself have no clear direction of what we are looking for. We are not sure what we want, but we know that we want it and we want it now… however…

If you don’t know what you’re looking for, how will you know when you find it?